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The loss of a pet can often be the fist experience of death that a child encounters. Therefore how we handle that experience with our children will play a large part in how the child will feel about death in general and in particular about the loss of their pet.

I suppose that there is no set way to explain the loss of a pet to a child, your explanation of the death might be grounded in your own religious or spiritual beliefs, you may use anecdotal information or stories to help your child understand what has happened to their pet. Whichever approach you take it goes without saying that the child’s feelings and grief should be understood and handled with compassion and love.

Children of differing ages will respond to the death or loss of a pet in different ways. I found the following snippet from an article which outlines this very well……

• “Explaining Pet Loss to Your Child,

  It is natural to want to protect our children from painful experiences. Most adults, however, are surprised to find how well most children adjust to the death of a pet if they are prepared with honest, simple explanations. From a young age, children begin to understand the concept of death, even though they may be unaware of it at a conscious level.

  When a pet is dying, it may be more difficult for a child to resolve the grief experienced if the child is not told the truth. Adults should avoid using terms like "put to sleep" when discussing euthanasia of a family pet. A child could misinterpret this common phrase, indicating the adult's denial of death, and develop a terror of bedtime. Suggesting to a child that "God has taken" the pet might create conflict in the child, who could become angry at the higher power for cruelty toward a pet and the child.

  Children are capable of understanding, each in their own way, that life must end for all living things. Support their grief by acknowledging their pain. The death of a pet can be an opportunity for a child to learn that adult caretakers can be relied upon to extend comfort and reassurance. It is an important opportunity to encourage a child to express his or her feelings.

• Two- and Three-Year- Olds:

  Children who are two or three years old typically have no understanding of death. They often consider it a form of sleep. They should be told that their pet has died and will not return. Common reactions to this include temporary loss of speech and generalized distress. The two- or three-year-old should be reassured that the pet's failure to return is unrelated to anything the child may have said or done. Typically, a child in this age range will readily accept another pet in place of the dead one.

• Four-, Five-, and Six-Year-Olds:

  Children in this age range have some understanding of death but in a way that relates to a continued existence. The pet may be considered to be living underground while continuing to eat, breathe, and play. Alternatively, it may be considered asleep. A return to life may be expected if the child views death as temporary. These children often feel that any anger they had for the pet may be responsible for its death. This view should be refuted because they may also translate this belief to the death of family members in the past. Some children also see death as contagious and begin to fear that their own death (or that of others) is imminent. They should be reassured that their death is not likely. Manifestations of grief often take the form of disturbances in bladder and bowel control, eating, and sleeping. This is best managed by parent-child discussions that allow the child to express feelings and concerns. Several brief discussions are generally more productive than one or two prolonged sessions.

• Seven-, Eight-, and Nine-Year-Olds:

  The irreversibility of death becomes real to these children. They usually do not personalize death, thinking it cannot happen to themselves. However, some children may develop concerns about death of their parents. They may become very curious about death and its implications. Parents should be ready to respond frankly and honestly to questions that may arise. Several manifestations of grief may occur in these children, including the development of school problems, learning problems, antisocial behavior, hypochondriacal concerns, or aggression. Additionally, withdrawal, over-attentiveness, or clinging behavior may be seen. Based on grief reactions to loss of parents or siblings, it is likely that the symptoms may not occur immediately but several weeks or months later.

• Adolescents:

  Although this age group also reacts similarly to adults, many adolescents may exhibit various forms of denial. This usually takes the form of a lack of emotional display. Consequently, these young people may be experiencing sincere grief without any outward manifestations.”

Helping a child to express there emotions about the loss of a pet has to be one of the steps in the healing process. Loss and grief effects us in different ways and during the grieving process we should be aware of what is happening to the child and help them with it.

My daughter made an online pet memorial to her guinea pig “Bessy” when she died and I think that that helped her to reconcile that fact the physical Bessy had gone but that she still had fond memories of her which she wanted others to share…

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